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"I have a question that I would love to be answered by someone like you. See, I can't get off at all. Me and my boyfriend have tried everything. I just can't seem to get off! Vibraters, sex, oral sex, fingerbanging, different sex postitions, everything except for ass sex. I heard that hurts and I'm not really into it all that much. But I did hear that it is a great place for you to get off. Like the most sensitive place. Whatever. Just please tell me how I can get the fuck off! My boyfriend would thank you too. Please please please. By the way, I'm adding you as a favorite. Your diary is my favorite I've seen in awhile. Thanks again."

Ok now if you read this and freak because I've put it on my actual diary, I can take it right off.

First off, I keep wondering if you have something medical going on. Sometimes people that have a disease or vaginal infections have problems. Certain meds, like my very own effexor cause me to not orgasm no matter how hard I try. The harder I try, the harder it is. It's not wierd to go to a gynecologist and ask her what can help you if this is the case. Tell her exactly what you said in the GB entry. That's what they're there for. It probably will be a little awkward, but if you're up front with her and talk matter of fact, like you're talking about the weather, it's not so bad.

The second thing I wonder is if there's a history of some sort of abuse. And you know, that could be that isn't the case at all, but I want to ask. Something about the fact that you liked it when he was trying to get you there and it was a little rougher. Again, I have no idea. It's just something to bring up.

I know that I have mental blocks at times. I would do anything or try just about anything. I find a vibrator can lessen sensation for me and might not be a great choice...but I think other women don't have that problem.

I've also watched porn in the past while someone was trying to get me off and that worked pretty well. It takes your mind off of trying so hard and you're focused on the feeling and the arousal from the porn movie.

I just had a thought and looked up female sexual dysfunction and found something pretty medical and uninteresting on www.merckmanual.com and there's a good paragraph in there that says:

"The Masters and Johnson 3-stage sensate focus exercises, in which the couple moves stepwise from nongenital pleasuring to genital pleasuring to nondemanding coitus, generally benefit women regardless of the level of sexual inhibition. Individual psychotherapy or group therapy is sometimes useful."

OH OH OH and they talk about the importance of Kegel execises, which I am really big on:

"A woman should understand the function of her sexual organs and her responses, including the best methods of stimulating the clitoris and enhancing vaginal sensations. Kegel's exercises strengthen voluntary control of the pubococcygeus muscle. The muscle is contracted 10 to 15 times tid. In 2 to 3 mo, perivaginal muscle tone improves, as does the woman's sense of control and the quality of orgasm."

I know that I've had better orgasms when I stick to doing my kegels.

But I still can't help but think it's either medical or a "mental block".

The reason for me putting this question here is due to the fact that there's quite a few women who read this and they might have lots of suggestions. The more we talk about this stuff, the more we realize we're not alone and whatever experiences people have, they can share and it is always beneficial for someone.

And check out this treatment link for Eros Therapy. Shit. I may have to check into this.

And you all know I'm not an official sponser for these Eros Therapy people. Looks great though.

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